Healing and Loving Through Grief

 


“When you lose a significant someone to mortality’s call, you feel you may never recover from the grief. It’s as if a part of you left; there is a sudden void in your heart and you feel empty. You miss the special one so much it hurts. Through it all, how can you not also lose yourself?”

Through the article “Healing and Loving Through Grief”, I shared my story of losing some of the most beloved souls in my life and how I healed, expanded, and loved through these experiences.

“Through my healing journey, I discovered that death is merely a physical illusion. Though the body may disappear, the memories and the love that we shared with the loved one remain in our hearts forever. The love never dies. It is permanent and everlasting. Only love is real. The best gift we can give to those who have left us is to love and live fully, joyfully, and purposefully and cherish those who are still with us.”

“Death is not the end. Life continues. The journey continues. Thank you, Grief.”

Thank You, Christina Teng, Vivien Loh, and bodymindsoul Magazine, Malaysia, for your trust and for publishing this article in Volume 32 The Mystical Light (Apr to Jun 2022, p 16 to 22). Read it for free by signing up here: https://bit.ly/bodymindsoulCommunitySignup or click here to read it. 

Dedication: I am dedicating this article especially to those who have physically left us during the pandemic. May your souls rest in peace and love. And to all of us who have lost loved ones during these extraordinary times. May we find peace and courage to let go and move forward.

Tributes: I bow and salute you all with the deepest love, gratitude, and reverence: The Golden Space family, Master Umesh for the life-changing Nepal retreat, Tan Keng Ann who introduced me to the Ho'oponopono mantra, Stacey Lee for the transformative family constellation sessions, Joyce Wonsono for your amazing grief workshop and class, Michaael Wong for your powerful Healing Grief meditation, Talita Setyadi for the memorable automatic writing therapy, my Qigong Master, Ronan Tang, who taught me Mother and Father Salutation, my Vipassana Guruji S. N. Goenka, who shared the story of Kisa Gotami and the Mustard Seed, and my super awesome editor, Barry Bearak, for your continued support.


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First drafted in Jambi on Feb 15, 2022, and completed in Jambi on Feb 25, 2022.

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